The French call an orgasm the "little death" La Petite Mort. I was not particularly thinking about this until yesterday morning on the mat when I noticed how in every practice, when I reach my edge, I feel like I am about to die. That is at worst. At best I feel a bit sick, either the stomach is processing something or the twists are working their thing, or I get dizzy and need to breathe deeper, I don't know, something is happening, and I am about to die, or throw up, whatever may come first.
Of course the deep breathing and focus eases things and eventually I relax into each pose, letting it happen, coming back to the breath, finding the mythological state of yoga, the peace, the release. Letting go, dying a bit?
But there is a moment before that where I almost die, if not for real at least of disgust, or physical revulsion.
I have noticed this so many times that I began to wonder weather by "dying a little" every day and then being with it by breathing, we may avoid a horrible death full of suffering whenever the lady in black may come knocking.
So I guess the little death can happen in the yoga mat as much as it can happen in the bedroom. Perhaps this is where yoga and tantra mix, where we come face to face with how human we are and how interrelated life - pleasure - pain - death are related.
Would an orgasm a day bring a quieter death? Would getting to that edge in practice ensure a longer healthier life with a less painful death?
I wish I had the answer, I know there are no guarantees, but I keep wondering, maybe hoping.
If you guess that maybe that title was a bit of a traffic shout out, what can I say, I am human, but I still wonder about this, so much so that every time I feel the prelude to death in a pose I figure perhaps I am making for a healthier old age.
What do you think?
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But there is a moment before that where I almost die, if not for real at least of disgust, or physical revulsion.
I have noticed this so many times that I began to wonder weather by "dying a little" every day and then being with it by breathing, we may avoid a horrible death full of suffering whenever the lady in black may come knocking.
So I guess the little death can happen in the yoga mat as much as it can happen in the bedroom. Perhaps this is where yoga and tantra mix, where we come face to face with how human we are and how interrelated life - pleasure - pain - death are related.
Would an orgasm a day bring a quieter death? Would getting to that edge in practice ensure a longer healthier life with a less painful death?
I wish I had the answer, I know there are no guarantees, but I keep wondering, maybe hoping.
If you guess that maybe that title was a bit of a traffic shout out, what can I say, I am human, but I still wonder about this, so much so that every time I feel the prelude to death in a pose I figure perhaps I am making for a healthier old age.
What do you think?

Well, if this is a traffic shout-out, then I must be a sucker for traffic shout-outs by being the first to comment:-)
ReplyDeleteI don't know for sure, really, but I hope and like to think that you are right about this; that perhaps dying a little everyday may help us to avoid a super-painful horrible death.
Glad you agree, and I most certainly hope so too! after all isnt it all preparation for death?
ReplyDeleteWell, I'd an orgasm a day sounds nice, whatever the longer term effects...
ReplyDeleteHi YFC ha ha :-)
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